Yearning:

The word yearning, what does it mean? It is about wanting something badly. But if it were just that we would call the feeling “wanting” and not “yearning”. Yearning is wanting something so badly it hurts. It has to hurt to be worthy of the word.

Passionate people tend to experience yearning more frequently than others. Meaning, people who do everything they do with extreme emotions. When they are happy, they are not only happy, they are thrilled, ecstatic even and when they are sad or hurt, they are not only that, they are devastated. I am one of those people who’s highs in life are incredibly high, which is fantastic and makes life such a thrilling, beautiful and eventful experience. However, it also makes the lows, really low and the punches extremely painful. Yearning is somewhere in between a high and a low. It can be both high and low, and it can be neither.

Wanting a child, having the wish to become a mother is the negative kind of yearning when it cannot be achieved before the feeling of wanting motherhood turns into a yearning for motherhood. It is an irrational feeling for most of us. It comes from an egocentric place for all of us, which is understandable but irrational nevertheless. It is something you cannot turn off or ignore. Once you have it, it’s there like a constant companion or an itch you desperately need to scratch. The feeling becomes such a part of who you are that you become a different person, a person willing to do whatever it takes to fulfill that dream.

We also have a positive kind of yearning. The kind that gives you flutters in your belly. The feeling that grows from attraction to another person. That kind of yearning is tied up with lust and longing. While it aches, it is still a positive feeling. It gives you energy, makes you want to be better than you are. It makes you capable of a love that comes from a place of pure selflessness.

It is funny how one kind of yearning can lead to the fulfillment of the other.

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