Our Pride Month

It’s June! It’s Pride month. I am currently way behind on blogging. I am way behind in every aspect of my life. I lost my inspiration these last few weeks, but even without proper inspiration, I felt it is necessary for me to address pride month. 

Let me be honest here, I adore everything and anyone that is part of the LBGTQ community! I think everyone should just be more accepting towards the things they see as different than themselves. I mean seriously, do you know how many people say “no, I’m not homophobic, I just don’t want them to be all up in my face about it.” or “No, I don’t mind homosexuals or lesbians, but I do think bisexual people are just faking it.” Sorry!, I’ll stop ranting now. 

I’ve talked about bisexuality on this blog before, so today I want to address transsexuality and transgenderism. I often wonder why there is so much confusion under the cisgender population about genderfluidity and transgenderism. I don’t understand why it matters to anyone but the person in question. I hear so many stories on all media outlets about transgender people being assaulted or bullied. I wonder why… I mean why are some people so offended by transgenders? If young men are harassing a transgender girl for wearing a skirt they are doing that because she is different. She does not fit into a box, so they want to shame her into a box simply because she is different, or at least that is what they want people to think. What they are actually doing is shoving themselves more firmly into the box they believe to be in. I mean, God forbid anyone would think they were different or not so firmly into that “normal, average, straight” box. I don’t blame these boys or girls, I gave a male example here, let us be clear that does not mean girls don’t bully, assault or harass transgenders. But I don’t blame them, it is just ignorance and insecurity they are suffering from. And furthermore, they often are a victim of a gender-specific upbringing. It is something that is thaught to children from the moment they are born, boys act in a certain way and girls act in a certain way. Boys don’t wear dresses, boys don’t wear skirts, and girls wear make-up and play with dolls. Furthermore, girls look beautiful or cute while boys look nice, tough, manly, or cool. Most of the time we don’t even comment on a young boy’s looks or clothes while we almost always do for girls. wether we do it consciously or unconsciously in creates a dived, differences and boxes we should get rid of.

So, for pride month, I call for change. I call for a more genderneutral upbringing of the next generation. An upbringing and education that about all sorts of people, not just the ones that are regarded as normal. No one is normal because everyone is special, special but equal. So we should all teach that to the next generation, there are no boxes because everyone is unique! 

Labels are the opposite of understanding!

I had an interesting conversation with a friend a few days ago which reminded me of some frustrating points in the current general opinion.

In this day and age, sex seems to be very important for almost everyone, whether you are young, or old consciously or unconsciously most of us have strong opinions about sexuality. We think we have it all figured out. Society has created these perfect boxes, a typical mold in which every group of people gets their own and should fit in there perfectly. Why is that? Why are people so damn scared of anything or anyone that is different? Why do we feel this incredible urge to label people in the first place? Why is it important what label we can stick to a person? Homosexual, bisexual, transgender, asexual, heterosexual.. why can’t we all be sexual beings? Why can’t we evolve to accept that we fall in love not based on gender but based on beauty, personality, physical attraction and emotional connection?

I, myself have a strong preference for men and may never have a relationship with a woman, but that doesn’t mean I couldn’t. Does this make me any less bisexual or any more heterosexual? I wouldn’t know. I think it makes me human. Because I am aware I could fall in love with a woman and am sometimes attracted to a woman should I know define myself as bisexual? Am I suddenly a different person? No, I’m still the same person. I’ve always known we are all bisexual in some way, most of us won’t even entertain the possibility and therefore shut it out, living half blind. Because I chose to accept it and consider the possibility am I now a completely different “kind” of human? And furthermore, because I know decide to speak up and broadcast my opinions and preferences does that suddenly make me bisexual? Why define it in the first place? Why does it even matter?

Let’s break the mold and stop trying to fit everyone into one. We are who we are, and no one is the same as either you or me, so how can we expect people to fit into a mold when we are all such unique beings!?